This week, a photo was released of the
glamourous and very beautiful Olivia Wilde breastfeeding her baby son Otis, which
was taken for the September issue of Glamour Magazine, and I was surprised to find
I was very pleased to see it.
I did breast feed Coco until she was 13
months old but I have never been a massive advocator of breast feeding in a
shout about it kind of way, rather I had always believed that what made the
mother happiest was best. But
unexpectedly, the photo did stir up some warm and fuzzy feelings, just to know
that someone is bringing breastfeeding into the mainstream in a positive way.
I was very lucky to never experience any
unwanted attention from any of the general public when breastfeeding Coco out
and about, whether it be unfriendly stares or comments, but I think this is
largely due to almost always being with my pack of fellow new mums who were
also willingly flashing their nipples in name of feeding their newborn. It was
a case of safety in numbers and living in a family friendly neighborhood also helped.
This is not to say that I’m not
apprehensive about doing it again second time round. As well as the joys you usually hear about…
leaky boobs, sore, cracked nipples, engorgement… the list goes on…there is also
the stuff they don’t tell you about.
Such delights can occur as nipple thrush (awful!), and having one boob
significantly larger than the other for weeks on end (much to the amusement of
my mother!).
Also, there is the lack of freedom. I breastfeed Coco exclusively for that full
year, and although I am now really happy I did, it wasn’t completely from
choice. Due to my just mentioned
condition (it’s too horrible to type again!) I left it too late with a bottle
and the stubborn little so and so just wouldn’t accept anything else. This meant that Coco was tied to me and me
alone, so I could kiss goodbye to any evenings out with friends or nights away
with my husband. Even getting to the
hairdresser needed a plan of military precision. Coco needed milk and I was the
only one who could give it to her.
Close friends without children would stare
at me with a look of absolute horror when I would tell them I was still breastfeeding when Coco was 10 months, meaning sadly I couldn’t make a birthday or hen do away. As if I was breastfeeding a teenager. “Can’t you just give her a bottle?” they
would sometimes say. If only it was that
easy! It's often discussed how bottle-feeding mums worry that breastfeeding mums look at them in judgement but that couldn't be further from the truth. How I longed for Coco to take a bottle.
So it makes me happy to see that someone in
the spotlight like Olivia was game enough to bare her boobs and show the world
how every day and normal breastfeeding is, and not something we should be ashamed of.
Whilst I am well aware from friends that bottle-feeding also comes with
its own set of issues, breastfeeding too is not always a barrel of laughs, and
it’s nice to know there are some people brave enough to put their boobs out
there and champion us other normal breastfeeding mums.
Let’s just hope I’ll look as amazing as she
does second time round! Maybe just less beautiful dress and full face of
make-up, but more a bit of mascara and an unstained t-shirt…miracles can
happen.
Gemma x
Great post Gemma! Although I think it is great that Olivia is advocating breastfeeding, I am not a big fan of the pics - I don't think it is really a genuine example of a breastfeeding Mum - e.g. naked baby in cafe and right boob pretty much completely on show - this would draw a lot of unwanted attention in my opinion. It may just be because I am jealous though ;)
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree! The look I will be busting is definitely more along the lines of hair scraped back, minimal make-up and a top sporting a nice big leaky milk stain :) But I guess her publicist would be less likely to sign that concept off! Thanks so much for commenting. Gemma x
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